3 Year Old’s First Words: Daddy Called Me Stupey…

3 Year Old Called Names

“Daddy call  stupey (stupid) and fuckey in by his whole self”

2006: The figure is “Daddy” the circles are an attempt at writing letters. Child 2, then 3 years old, drew this picture and explained what it meant to me.

Child 2 was severely speech delayed, and at age 3 was barely talking. After we fled our home, Child 2 began talk–it was amazing how many words she suddenly was able to speak. It was like a door had opened, she was speaking and trying new words at a rapid pace.

Only her first words were so horrible to hear..A recurring theme in her play was the male dolls yelling at and hitting the female dolls. She would act out her trauma over and over in drawing, play and singing songs with words and statements like these. “Daddy call me stupey!” “Daddy call me fuckey!”

I did seek therapy and treatment for my children and my family as a whole. The Court has decided that my efforts are not enough–I must be doing something to cause my daughter to play out these violent and abusive scenes. The Court says these behaviors are not related to the abuse Child 2 had experienced or witnessed. According to the Court, and the Guardian ad Litem, abuse did not even occur. Explain then why my children are reporting abuse, why they both have PTSD and anxiety?

The Court’s constant messages have left an ugly imprint on my children–if the children report abuse, they will not be believed. The children have been redirected to behave better, to get along with their father better…they have become silent to their real feelings and thoughts, they just accept things and do not dare to question.

-Emily Court/M21


About Emily Court

It takes "Just Us" To Fight Injustice in Family Court. I blog to raise awareness about problems existing in the family court system, and use my own story as a personal example of how the systemic failures in family court, and the Guardian ad Litem Program, affect families, in an effort to encourage needed reform. Written by a survivor of domestic violence and homelessness working to create a better life for her children, in a stable home free of violence. In her efforts to rebuild her life, she has not only encountered harassment and intimidation from her alleged abuser but faced systematic failures in family court that have empowered her alleged abuser and put her children at risk. She is now fighting to keep her kids safe, and bring them home. Through writing and blogging, FCI is working to raise awareness about domestic violence, and the urgent need for family court reform. She is currently working on a memoir titled "'Til Prayers Are Answered".
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One Response to 3 Year Old’s First Words: Daddy Called Me Stupey…

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