Warning- video may be triggering to anyone who has experienced abuse, contains scenes of violence and flashbacks of abuse.
It’s Independence Day!
Yes, that means YOU!! You don’t have to put up with abuse, disrespect or be treated poorly. You may not have the power to change a corrupt court or hold back the hand of an abuser, but you do have power over your own attitude, actions, and choices…and that is MIGHTY indeed! Your freedom begins the day you say NO! to abuse in any form.
Take back your life. Get help and/or support to safely leave the situation, and rebuild your life. If in fear of safety, contact a battered women’s shelter or abuse organization for safety planning. You don’t have to live in fear of your life. Or work with a boss who mistreats you. Or be a part of a church that shames you. Say NO to abuse in any form, you deserve better!
Take back your mind. Start to read positive affirmations, listen to positive music or watch movies that make you laugh/uplift you. Fill your mind with positive messages and your body will begin to respond, and heal. Join a support group. Start to enjoy the hobbies or activities you once enjoyed but stopped due to the abuse. Seek therapy, counseling or help from an abuse support group.
By seeking help, and taking steps to replace negative messages with positive ones, will increase your self-esteem, and better be able to discern abusive or unsafe people so you can protect yourself.
Surround yourself with positive, support people or find places of support (therapy, support group, DV education, grief group, healing circle, church/spiritual support etc). You have the ability to do so many great things….it all starts with one choice, one step..and then another…and another. I Believe in You!
It’s YOUR Independence Day!
xo Emily Court xo
Some Crisis Numbers That May Help:
Child Help National Child Abuse Hotline: http://www.childhelp.org/pages/hotline-home or 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453)
The National Domestic Violence Hotline: http://www.thehotline.org/ or, 1-800-799-7233 or TTY 1-899-787-3224
The National Domestic Violence Hotline, Help for Abusive Partners: http://www.thehotline.org/help/for-abusive-partners/
National Runaway Safeline: http://www.1800runaway.org/ or 1-800-786-2929 (Runaway)
Safe Horizon: Moving Victims of Violence from Crisis to Confidence: http://www.safehorizon.org/page/call-our-hotlines-9.html
Safe Horizon’s Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-621-HOPE (4673)
Safe Horizon’s Rape, Sexual Assault & Incest Hotline: 1-212-227-3000
TDD phone number for all hotlines: 1-866-604-5350
A Long Walk Home (Healing Activities for Abuse Survivors) http://www.alongwalkhome.org/resources.php
“Independence Day” (1994) is a song written by Gretchen Peters and sung by country music star, Martina McBride. The video for “Independence Day” ranked #2 in CMT’s 100 Greatest Songs of Country Music. And Gretchen Peters received a CMA award for Song for the Year in 1994 for “Independence Day”.
The highly intense, emotional video for “Independence Day” tells the story of a family dealing with domestic violence from the eyes of an 8 year old little girl. The little girl has taken the role to comfort her Mother after she was beaten, she is so hyper vigilant of abuse that she cannot enjoy normal events (like a parade featured in the video, the site of two clowns play fighting triggers memories of her parents fighting, and she has flashbacks). The family is living in a small town, and everyone is aware of the abuse but does nothing to help.
On Independence Day, the violence in the home escalates. The Mother cannot take any more abuse and lights the home on fire. Martina says the Mother does not die in the fire, she has just gained her freedom from abuse, the lyrics sing, “Now I ain’t sayin’ it’s right or it’s wrong, But maybe it’s the only way…” The video ends with the home going down in flames and the little girl being taken to the county home. The last scene shown is of Martina leaning against a brick wall with a flag waving, indicating independence from abuse.
Now if the abuser has told everyone you are crazy, an unfit mother and labelled you with all these references to what a terrible person you are…you would think the abuser’s testimony would work to prove the insanity defense for the Mother. ..Maybe be reaching, but just a thought. Would make an interesting thriller/novel!
(This post does not mean it’s okay to take revenge on anyone, or that’s okay to become violent! This is just a commentary on “Independence Day” by Martina McBride. If you need help coping with an abusive relationship, seek professional help. Or, if you are struggling with thoughts of violence, seek professional help immediately. If in immediate danger dial 911.)
Wikipedia (Independence Day, Martina McBride Song): http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Independence_Day_(Martina_McBride_song)
Lyrics Independence Day, AZ Lyrics: http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/martinamcbride/independenceday.html