A must read article “The Ten Types of Personality Disorder” by Value Your Body helps you understand and identify the distinctive set of traits, behavior styles, and patterns of those afflicted with personality disorder. http://odyb.net/disorders/the-10-types-of-personality-disorder
Personality Disorder is a REAL and SERIOUS mental health condition that requires treatment. If left untreated, the personality disordered person’s quality of life is greatly diminished. Also, the personality disordered person can cause havoc and behave abusively towards family, friends or lash out against society.
Borderline Personality Disorder from Psych Central:
“The main feature of borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a pervasive pattern of instability in interpersonal relationships, self-image and emotions. People with borderline personality disorder are also usually very impulsive, oftentimes demonstrating self-injurious behaviors…
Borderline personality disorder occurs in most by early adulthood. The unstable pattern of interacting with others has persisted for years and is usually closely related to the person’s self-image and early social interactions. The pattern is present in a variety of settings..”
Some additional personality disordered traits I have learned about:
*Lifelong history or behavioral pattern of addictive behavior, having multiple types of addiction
*Has a belief that it is “me against the world”. You are either on his side or the enemy, period.
*Believes his life is an epic battle of “good vs. evil” and that the world does not understand him, and that only specially chosen people understand who he really is, and are meant to be in his life to help win this war, on his side.
*Due to his beliefs and attitudes, cannot work with other people or socialize normally. May avoid people or seek vulnerable people who can be exploited.
a) Cannot hold a regular job. Often self-employed with chaotic business practices. Displays predatory behavior in his business practices. victim. May have legal or civil problems related to attitudes and behaviors manifest of a personality disorder.
b)Does not have any close friends, again uses people or just prefers to be alone.
*Multi-generational family history of abuse and dysfunction– mental and physical abuse, alcoholism, mental illness etc
*Long history of criminal convictions and civil charges, the rules and laws of society do not apply. Has different expectations and rules for others.
*Capable of high levels of deception. You never know his true thoughts or feelings.
*Is a chameleon–will change his feelings and appearance to play other people, or to hide his true motivations.
*Takes pride in fooling people. Prides himself on tricking people to do things they would not ordinarily do.
*When feeling threatened or stressed, will go into extreme fits of rage.
*The rages may be followed by calm, unemotional states. He is perfectly fine when you are afraid, sad, upset or hurt. He does not understand your feelings and expects you to be fine and happy too.
*Avoids responsibility– blames, threatens or intimidates others to take responsible. Then portrays himself as the “victim”.
*Uses children as pawns in legal/custody proceedings. May not comply with court orders. Excessively file court orders. Engage in alienation or DV by Proxy tactics.
*Completely indifferent to the needs, wants, wishes of children. Exploits children.
*Will seek “flying monkeys” or triangulates i.e manipulates, lies and charms people for personal gain, or to get them to do his bidding which may involve attacking or harassing an ex-partner.
*Files false reports with police, doctors, school and family court. Spreads rumors or gossip. Makes false allegations in family court or to CPS.
*Shows no remorse for actions and choices that hurt other people
*History of abuse
Any “red flags” of abusive or personality disordered you are aware of? Plz post below!
Thanks Value Your Body for posting this insightful article!