“Blurry” by Puddle of Mudd – Video Depicts Challenges of Visitation, Co-Parenting

The video for “Blurry” by Puddle of Mudd (2001, Come Clean) tells a powerful story about a father wanting to spend time with his son, and depicts some of the difficulties with co-parenting after divorce or separation.

Wes Scantlin said he wrote the song about wanting to be a good dad, and wanting to spend more time with his son. The child in the video is played by Scantlin’s real son, Jordan. Jordin Scantlin is a guitar player who has performed “Blurry” on stage with his father (October 26, 2009, at the Blue Note, in Columbia, Missouri) and performed with him at other concerts, as well.

I wonder what you’re doing, Imagine where you are, There’s oceans in between us, But that’s not very far…

Can you take it all away?, Well you shoved it in my face, This pain you gave to me, Can you take it all away?

The screaming lyrics, and pounding drums give an idea of the pain and emotion Wes must have felt…

Cause I am lost without you, I cannot live at all, My whole world surrounds you, I stumble then I crawl…

Can you take it all away?, Can you take it all away?”

The video for “Blurry” is about a father struggling to maintain a relationship with his son after a relationship with his wife or girlfriend had ended. The ex partner does not appear to be supportive of the child’s relationship with father.

Everything’s so blurry, And everyone’s so fake, And everybody’s empty,
And everything is so messed up…

Blurry” shows some of the struggles the father has co-parenting. 

One scene depicts a custodial parent who acts irritated as she drops the child off to visit the father. The custodial parent is tapping her watch, as if to hurry the visit along – or maybe she feels taking time out of her day for her child to visit the father is a bother? The boyfriend is in the front seat of the car, chugging a beer. Though the video is fictional, you can still feel the tension of the scene. It is easy to imagine how uncomfortable and confusing that same tension would be on a child who is at the receiving end. Similarly, no parent should made to feel guilty, ashamed, bad or that they are a bother (etc) for wanting to spend time with their child.

About Emily Court

It takes "Just Us" To Fight Injustice in Family Court. I blog to raise awareness about problems existing in the family court system, and use my own story as a personal example of how the systemic failures in family court, and the Guardian ad Litem Program, affect families, in an effort to encourage needed reform. Written by a survivor of domestic violence and homelessness working to create a better life for her children, in a stable home free of violence. In her efforts to rebuild her life, she has not only encountered harassment and intimidation from her alleged abuser but faced systematic failures in family court that have empowered her alleged abuser and put her children at risk. She has spent over a decade trapped in family court until her children finally aged out of the system. Through writing and blogging, FCI is working to raise awareness about domestic violence, and the urgent need for family court reform. She is currently working on a memoir titled "'Til Prayers Are Answered".
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1 Response to “Blurry” by Puddle of Mudd – Video Depicts Challenges of Visitation, Co-Parenting

  1. I had gone through a custody battle with my abusive ex husband. I remembered this song and it definitely reminded me of my current struggles. It’s awful what the children have to endure. I can relate to your post a lot.

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