Abused Child Knows “Hiding Places” in the Home

My child confides to a therapist threats and incidents of abuse, that he knew “hiding places in the home should father find out where they live… At the time, my two children and I were living in a homeless shelter after being forced to flee our home after the ex, Martin Hegland, assaulted me. During the incident, Martin kicked in the door to the family home, hitting my child in the face with a brass doorknob and causing a black eye.

My child bravely spoke up about abuse only to have the family court system rip him out of the arms of the safe, loving mother who tried to protect him and then award SOLE custody to the identified perpetrator of abuse, Martin. At the time of the court order, Martin was a wanted fugitive with charges of drunk and disorderly conduct in another state, where a commitment order was issued against him. He was diagnosed by the court’s own psych eval as having a “personality disorder” and being a “master manipulator”. He had a lengthy history of multiple addictions. And there were over a dozen documented allegations of child abuse, with noticeable trauma in both children.

Hennepin County Family Justice Center – Epicenter of Corruption

My family has spent over a decade involved in family court litigation, the court itself has become a site for continued abuse. Four judges of the Hennepin County family court system, psychologist Susan DeVries and Guardian ad Litem Jamie Manning will ALL dismissed, ignored or otherwise participated in the cover-up of serious child abuse allegations.

When I raised allegations of abuse and sought therapy for my children, I was pressured, threatened and told by family court officials not to talk abuse or report concerns for the safety of my children. GAL Jamie Manning told me that reporting abuse means that I am “unable to co-parent“.

I filed a complaint with supporting documentation against Jamie Manning with Laurie Kusek, 4th District GAL Program Manager. Ms. Kusek ignored the complaint in its entirety and refused to respond. I also filed a complaint against Jamie Manning with the judge then presiding on my case, Ivy Bernhardson, who defended Manning and told me that I am “too emotionally attached” to my own children to appreciate the work of Manning.

The court system followed through on their threats and I have been forcibly separated from my children, and subjected to a court order that drastically reduces my parenting time to just one visit a month. I was once a stay at home mom and primary caregiver, and through the unjust order of the family court have become a stranger in the lives of my children. All of this with no findings of abuse or maltreatment against me. I have submitted professional recommendations attesting my character to the court. I passed the psych eval. I took parenting classes…and yet the most unfit, dysfunctional parent is awarded custody without ever having to prove he is a safe parent. This is Family Court Injustice.

Assessment: ” (Child) was cooperative and separated easily from his mother, who walked with us to the office and stayed several minutes to check in.

He immediately focused on trucks play, but was responsive to this examiner’s questions and stopped playing when asked to draw pictures. Answered questions and also spontaneously provided information.

(Child) spoke quite a bit about dad and talked about getting “dinosaur spankings” and that dad would “yell like a dinosaur”.

He stated he makes threats to hurt others because his dad made similar threats. He acknowledged those threats were scary when dad made them, and is not sure why he now makes them.  He stated he would not really hurt anyone.

His speech was often pressured. He talked about knowing hiding places in the home, should his father find out where they live…

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About Emily Court

It takes "Just Us" To Fight Injustice in Family Court. I blog to raise awareness about problems existing in the family court system, and use my own story as a personal example of how the systemic failures in family court, and the Guardian ad Litem Program, affect families, in an effort to encourage needed reform. Written by a survivor of domestic violence and homelessness working to create a better life for her children, in a stable home free of violence. In her efforts to rebuild her life, she has not only encountered harassment and intimidation from her alleged abuser but faced systematic failures in family court that have empowered her alleged abuser and put her children at risk. She has spent over a decade trapped in family court until her children finally aged out of the system. Through writing and blogging, FCI is working to raise awareness about domestic violence, and the urgent need for family court reform. She is currently working on a memoir titled "'Til Prayers Are Answered".
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3 Responses to Abused Child Knows “Hiding Places” in the Home

  1. I’m so very sorry to read your story. Sadly it’s one I know all too well, and one that I have heard so many times before. How old is your child?

    • I’m so sorry for you too, Lorrie. I have known no greater pain and believe it’s hard for othersv to fathom. Surely we must have done ‘something,’ right?
      Nothing has changed in mine, how about with yours? Unfortunately, I have not climbed much out of my ‘paralysis,’ either.
      I should add that there actually is one type of change I see: all mine’s trauma is only deepening. I volunteer at my younger two’s school, but am unable to do much aside view from a distance.
      I apologize for my delay.. I didn’t realize you had responded! Thank you for taking the time for that 💜
      I should probably be careful what ‘clues’ I leave to my identity ( I’m guessing you understand how our safety continues to be an issue 😢.). I have four, my youngest two still being in the mid-upper single digits, and my older two being in their mid-teens.
      One abuser used the other’s ’abuse’ to take my first two (after me solely raising them their first 12yrs); the second very soon after. My children have two different fathers, the latter of the two I married. Divorce was finalized over this past summer. He took everything there as well.
      How are things going with you and yours?
      As time goes on, it’s heart-wrenching to see more and more aching mamas join in; all our babes accumulating in their ACEs. If we truly want a change in attitudes, behaviors, violence, etc in our country and world, how could ‘we’ not look at what might be causing it? I know at this point and with the ACEscore I myself have; abuse has now been quadrupled into the next generation. I desperately want to at least turn my children onto a road of healing, but instead… 😢
      Thank you again for boldly sharing and speaking for many of us 💜

  2. I wish there was a different button here than ‘like,’ because, more appropriately this makes my stomach churn and my heart, ache. I am one in the same with you… and with (without) my four. I am so… so, very sorry. I wholeheartedly look up to you for braving this; it’s only virtually that I have found bits of belief or validation. I am three years now, with another order just delivered to continue this hell, and no end in sight. I cannot find my way out of paralysis, but know that it is not helping.
    I hope to pick up bits of your story here, perhaps gaining wisdom and maybe a bit of comfort. Regardless, I find a sad comfort in knowing I am not alone. Thank you so very much for sharing your story… it is not in vain.

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