The Captain: Abuse Survivor Shares Her Story of Family Court Injustice in Minnesota

May 25, 2017 Join The Captain Tonight at 8 pm EST/7 pm Central with guest, Lynn Marie, who shares her story of surviving abuse and enduring a horrific 11 year battle in the Hennepin County Family Justice Center. 

Click on this link to hear the show (an archive will also be available): The Captain Radio Show with Guest Lynn Marie

I am so thankful to the Captain for this opportunity to share my story, using my real name, and to break the silence imposed on me so I can expose the systemic failures and corruption existing in family court that have caused my children – and many others – to be forcefully taken from a fit, loving parent and forced to live in abuse and dysfunction.

 

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Child’s Letter to Mom: “You are the best Mom, no one would disagree…” (Love remains strong despite unjust Family Court order)

Another Mother’s Day without my children... who were forcibly taken from me by an unjust family court order issued in the Hennepin County Family Justice Center.

I grieve the loss of my children every day. In the midst of my pain is a bright shining star… My daughter painted this beautiful picture for me of an orange star surrounded by yellow and purple flowers (my favorite color!).

Inside the star she writes: “Mommy. Mommy. Thank you for the Easter gifts. You are the best mom no one would disagree I think. Happy Mother’s Day! Love.

(Heart sticker added to protect privacy of child)

From the day she was born, my daughter has brought joy into this world. She is lively as a firecracker but at the same time, enjoys quiet and time alone. She has a quirky sense of fashion that makes her one of a kind. Loves to laugh and tell jokes. And has the gift of writing like her mama (storytelling is a trait that has been passed in from my father’s side of the family for generations).

My daughter was born at a time of mourning – my Uncle died the year before. My Uncle was special to me – he loved family and brought us together for reunions. He shared stories about our  family, and our history. And was known for his generous laughter. He was a figure who was larger than life in every way…when he gave hugs you could disappear into the warmth of his arms. My Uncle was attending a family reunion when he died suddenly of heart failure. My Uncle died on the land that my ancestors worked as slaves, not too far from the cropper’s cabin where he was born, and within walking distance of the colored’s cemetery where his Mama is buried. It was just like he packed his bags and went on home.

A year after my Uncle’s death, my daughter was born… and the tears of mourning turned to tears of joy. Literally. When my daughter entered the world, she did not cry as most babies do – she laughed. I will never forget holding my daughter in my arms for the first time – her face was pink and perfect like a rosebud. She had straight black hair that stuck up in all directions. And when she curled against my chest, our breathing fell into one even pattern and our heart beat as one… she will forever have a place in my heart.

Public Domain: Pixaby.com – Makamuki0

When my daughter took her first steps, she did not walk – she ran. She became an adventurous toddler always climbing, jumping, doing death defying leaps from on top of whatever she climbed on.

As a child, she loved to curl up in my lap and read stories. I taught her how to write poetry and to say her bedtime prayers.

We played “Pretty, Pretty Princess” and dressed her brother up in a tiara and sparkly jewelry. The princess turned punk when my daughter took a liking to Avril Lavigne… the emotional lyrics sung to pounding drums and intense riffs suited what my daughter was going through at the time..she didn’t know all the words because she was so young but she would wave her hands and in her sweet, girlish voice sing “Changes!“.

My daughter has experienced, and witness some very ugly things, that no child should see. She has been abused. She has been homeless. At age 5, she has been ripped from the loving arms of her mother by a family court judge who threatened that if I did not comply with the order, and send my daughter to live with an abuser, that she would send police to take my daughter by force. I thought it would be better to send my daughter quietly, and not put up a fight. That this would somehow lessen the pain… I could not imagine the police showing up at Kindergarten to drag her away. In reality, nothing could lessen the pain. My daughter is haunted by memories and questions from that time. She does not say but I can see through her silence, that she wonders why I gave her away… she does not understand that I had no choice.

It pains me to think of the times my daughter cried, and was all alone and I could not comfort her. Or the times she has been sick and I was not able to be at her side, nursing her back to health. It pains me that she is growing into a young lady and man who has no respect for women is raising her. I wish I could take away the pain and rewrite her childhood… but this a story beyond the reach of my pen. This is a poem that will never be beautiful or inspiring – but instead will cut like shards of glass. Lyrics so bitter that it is best this poem remain unspoken.

Yet in the midst of my pain is a bright shining star… it is the love my daughter and I share, that has not been dimmed by the darkness around us. She has not given up on me. And I will never give up on her. I will be the “best mom” for her in the ways that I can.

~ “Emily Court”,  May 2017

 

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MEETING REMINDER: MN Office of the Legislative Auditor: GAL Roundtable Discussion

(MINNESOTA) MEETING REMINDER: PUBLIC INVITED TO ATTEND

Roundtable Discussion: Guardians Ad Litem
Monday, May 15th
1:00 p.m.
Room 300N, State Office Building.
Address: State Office Building
100 Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. Blvd.
Saint Paul, MN 55155

The Round Table Discussion is an important opportunity to gain more information on the 2017 Guardian ad Litem Audit and have your concerns heard.

If you are unable to attend the open forum or would like to provide written comments, please contact Jodi Munson Rodríguez, the program evaluation manager. You may reach her at jodi.rodriguez@state.mn.us.

A Call to Action ~ Together We Are Stronger (C2A)

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An update from the MN Office of the Legislative Auditor (OLA)  about the 2017 audit of the Guardian ad Litem programOLA Minnesota

Roundtable Discussion: Guardians Ad Litem, Monday, May 15, 1:00 p.m., Room 300N, State Office Building.

Address: State Office Building
100 Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. Blvd.
Saint Paul, MN 55155

State Office Building – Directions, Parking, General Info

OLA has released this statement concerning the Roundtable Discussion:

Interested Stakeholders:

The Minnesota Office of the Legislative Auditor (OLA) is beginning a program evaluation of the Guardians ad Litem program. We are seeking input from stakeholders like you as we begin developing our evaluation questions and the scope of our research activities.

OLA is a nonpartisan audit and evaluation office in the legislative branch of Minnesota state government.  We evaluate programs’ activities to determine how effectively and efficiently programs, as a whole, are…

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‘The Ultimate Betrayal and Breech of Trust’ – Laura Coward Murders Daughter Amid Custody Dispute

Amber Lucius. (Supplied Photo: LBERTA RCMP / THE CANADIAN PRESS)

(Alberta, Canada: March 2017) Amber Lucius, age 9, was beautiful and and outgoing. Her father, Duane Lucius, remembers the happy ring of her laughter and the warmth of her hugs. Duane says Amber had a wonderful future ahead of her.

Amber will never get to realize that future because she was drugged and burned to death by her vindictive mother, Laura Coward in August 30th 2014Crown prosecutor Jillian Pawlow says, “The Crown submits that the accused’s primary motivation was revenge-motivated, meant to inflict the most serious and permanent pain and anguish on Duane Lucius by depriving him of his only daughter.

At the time of the murder, Duane and Laura were involved in a custody dispute. Duane had been fighting for custodial rights and visitation with Amber since 2007, when Laura took her away (news articles imply she was alienating Amber from her father). Duane recently gained sole custody of Amber and was looking forward to their life together.

Duane shares his grief when offering this advise to parents involved in custody disputes,“I have had to bury my child and nothing will bring her back. I can only hope that other children are not being used as bargaining chips in a divorce or used to hurt the other parent.”

Laura Coward will spend life in prison with no chance of parole for 18 years after pleading guilty to second-degree murder. Court of Queen’s Bench Justice Scott Brooker said, “Amber was completely vulnerable to and trusting of her mother…It was the ultimate betrayal and breach of trust for Ms. Coward to kill her daughter.”

Duane Lucius’s victim impact statement:

Today is another reminder of my devastating loss. Amber was an innocent child and a selfish act ended her life.

I had only had one year with Amber to renew our bond as father and daughter. During that time Amber was always helping me on the farm and loved playing outside. She was a happy little girl loved by the entire community.

Since the moment Amber was born, she was the light of my life. She was energetic, talkative and full of joy. I will never get to watch my daughter grow up, but I know she would have done great in life.

No sentence will do justice for what has happened to Amber. As a father, I have had to bury my child and nothing will bring her back. I can only hope that other children are not being used as bargaining chips in a divorce or used to hurt the other parent. No parent should ever take a child’s life just to get back at the other. We are supposed to provide our children with love, not scare them. Because of this situation she was taken away from me, and all who loved her, far too soon.

Amber was my life and I will miss her every day until my end. I will never forget her.

Read Full Story:

Father speaks of tragic loss of his only daughter at the hands of his ex-wife

‘Vile and evil’: Alberta mother who drugged, burned 9-year-old daughter gets life sentence

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The War at Home Fox 9 Reports: Veteran David Carlson Fights for his Twin Girls in Minnesota Family Court

David Carlson and Daughters. Source GoFundMe: https://www.gofundme.com/help-david-get-his-daughters-back

Please visit Fox 9 for full story: THE WAR AT HOME: Iraq veteran says family court using PTSD treatment against him by Tom Lyden

For one Marine the most difficult conflict he would ever face would be the War at Home…” Tom Lyden of Fox 9 News investigates the story of veteran David J Carlson, who lost custody of his twin girls in a Minnesota courtroom due to allegations that as a military veteran he must have PTSD and that makes him an unfit parent. This, despite an expert report from Dr. James Tuorila, the Surgeon General for the VFW, who states,”I have no professional doubts that that Mr. Carlson is and continues to be a good father and role model for his children...” The psychologist also recommended that David’s parental rights be restored immediately. 

David, a Marine corporal, served 3 combat tours in Iraq over a decade ago. Since then he earned a Masters from the University of Minnesota in security strategies and technology, became a substitute teacher, coached basketball, mentored at-risk youth and previously ran for U.S. Senate.

He has not seen his daughters in nearly a year.

David is not giving up the fight for justice, and to regain custody of his daughters.

According to a petition posted in support of David:

“In March 2016, David initiated a federal civil rights lawsuit against Ramsey County, Anoka County, and Independent School District #624, White Bear Lake, Minnesota, for damages. He also asked for an immediate injunction ordering a full return of his custodial rights, and for the immediate removal and investigation of Guardian ad Litem Ramona Olson.

David has also requested a Department of Justice (DOJ) investigation into the embattled Minnesota Guardian Ad Litem Program, which has been plagued with a variety of problems literally for decades…”

A federal judge dismissed the federal civil rights case for lack of jurisdiction.

David also filed a complaint with the Minnesota Board on Judicial Standards, but the Board claimed it had no authority and dismissed the complaint.

David hopes that through his lawsuit and story, that other parents won’t ever have to be subjected to “the terrible, immense, and unmeasurable pain and suffering he had to endure…

Show your support, please sign the petition: President Trump Help the Carlson girls get their Daddy back!

(Carlson campaign video, 2012)

Note: One of the most commonly reported complaints from parents involved in family court proceedings (and the Guardian ad Litem program) is that false allegations and fabricated evidence of a mental illness are used to deprive a fit, loving parent of custody and/or visitation.

I can related to David Carlson’s story because I had a similar experience in family court with false allegations, as have countless family court victims – including veterans – who have contacted this blog. These are parents not only from Minnesota but from all over the United States – mothers and fathers alike.

 

 

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Appellate Judge ‘Aghast’ At 15 Minute Hearing That Ordered 3 Children Into State Care, Parents Not Allowed to Present Their Case

Judge James Orrell Source: Daily Mail UK)

It is too easy for family court and CPS judges to remove a child from their home and make life-changing decisions in hearings that often violate the laws and due process rights of parents. The decisions of judges are rarely questioned because they hide behind the shield of immunity. In truth, judges are NOT granted immunity when they break the law or act outside their jurisidiction. The “best interest” of justice demands increased accountability and oversight of judicial officers… it is wrong that a parent could walk into court as part of a family and leave childless, with little or no hope of regaining custody and/or visitation.

(Derby, Derbyshire, England: 2011) After a hearing which lasted just 15 minutes, Judge James Orrell ordered that 3 children should be immediately taken from their parents and placed into state care. The parents were accused of abuse then denied their right to present their case, and not allowed to speak, when the ruling was made. 

The ruling was exposed after the case was heard in an Appeals Court and overturned. Appellate Judge Lord Justice Thorpe said about the ruling,”I am completely aghast at this case. There is nothing more serious than a removal hearing, because the parents are so prejudiced in proceedings thereafter…Once you have lost a child, it is very difficult to get a child back.”

David Gale, founder of Kids for Cash UK says criminality is rampant in the  court system with judges taking a leading role in malpractice. Gale says,”We have a judicial system that is increasingly being allowed to bring the Law into disrepute. It’s time that we scrapped the outdated concept of judicial independence. It is time to hold judges to account.

Gale has investigated the family courts in Derby and discovered that Judge Orrell is the director of an organization called Relate that provided commercial services, including child counseling to local authorities. Kids for Cash UK exposed Judge Orrell as issuing care orders in order to generate business for Relate and its partners. After being exposed, Relate was quickly dismantled and all records have disappeared. Gale has written a letter of inquiry to  LJ Munby, President of the Family Division of the High Court, who has refused to answer any questions.

The case was sent back to a county court with a different judge appointed.

Read More:

Family torn apart in 15-minute court case: Judge condemned for decision to remove children (Daily Mail)

The Disgrace of Our Judicial System by David Gale

Judicial Immunity Is NOT Absolute!

 

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President Trump Remarks on Holocaust National Days of Remembrance: “.. it only takes one light to illuminate even the darkest space…”

President Donald J. Trump’s speech at the United States Holocaust Memorial Museum National Days of Remembrance. April 25, 2017. 

Transcript: Remarks by President Trump at United States Holocaust Memorial Museum National Days of Remembrance

A moving, powerful speech… President Trump’s speech for the national commemoration of the Holocaust.

The purpose of the National Days of Remembrance is to:

Remember the victims who perished in the Holocaust. A special ceremony that includes reading the names of the men, women, and children killed during the Holocaust is an important part of the National Days of Remembrance.  The Yad Vashem’s Shoah Victims’ Names Project has collected over 4,700,000 names of Holocaust victims.

Honor the survivors of the Holocaust. To record and preserve their stories to be passed down to future generations.

Another way to honor survivors: Help impoverished Jews who escaped death during the Holocaust live out their final years with dignity, please consider a donation to the International Fellowship of Jews and Christians

To remember the Holocaust and record it not only in history, but in the human heart and mind. To remember is to bear testimony so the lives lost will never be forgotten. To remember is educate society and draw lessons from what happened during one of the darkest eras of human history.

The annual observance also recognizes the American troops who liberated the Nazi concentration camps.

President Trump said in his remarks,“Your courage strengthens us.  Your voices inspire us.  And your stories remind us that we must never, ever shrink away from telling the truth about evil in our time.  Evil is always seeking to wage war against the innocent and to destroy all that is good and beautiful about our common humanity.  But evil can only thrive in darkness.  And what you have brought us today is so much more powerful than evil.  You have brought us hope — hope that love will conquer hatred, that right will defeat wrong, and that peace will rise from the ashes of war.

Each survivor here today is a beacon of light, and it only takes one light to illuminate even the darkest space.  Just like it takes only one truth to crush a thousand lies and one hero to change the course of history.  We know that in the end, good will triumph over evil, and that as long as we refuse to close our eyes or to silence our voices, we know that justice will ultimately prevail.

So today we mourn.  We remember.  We pray.  And we pledge:  Never again.”

The week-long Days of Remembrance was first held in 1979 and then later established by Congress as the nation’s commemoration of the Holocaust. A House Joint resolution 1014 designated April 28 and 29 of 1979 as “Days of Remembrance of Victims of the Holocaust.” Senator John Danforth of Missouri, had originated the resolution, chose April 28 and 29, because it was on these dates, in 1945, that American troops liberated Dachau and several other satellite concentration camps, as well as rescuing hundreds of Jewish prisoners driven onto a death march.

Previously Published on FCI: 

The Lebensborn Program Pt. I: Nazi Program to Breed ‘Master Race’

The Lebensborn Program Pt. II: Nazi Kidnapping of Children

Additional Sources:

Ways You Can Help Remember the Holocaust

National Archives preserves Holocaust records and ensures that the Holocaust is not forgotten

Siren wails as Israel marks annual Holocaust Remembrance Day

Child Victims of the Holocaust (Auschwitz) Public Domain: http://www.fanpop.com/

During the National Days of Remembrance ceremony at the Capitol Rotunda, a Holocaust survivor accompanied by a member of Congress will light six candles in memory of the victims.

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Father Reunited With Son After 54 Years of Searching

(Omaha, Nebraska: 4/20/2017 ) – In 1963, Bruce Brooks, a father of two boys became estranged from his sons, and lost all contact after ending a relationship with their mother. 

Few details were provided about what happened but apparently the mother relocated with the children, and chose to exclude Brooks completely from the lives of the children.

For over 5 decades Brooks desperately searched for his children, praying for a reunion. And his son searched for him for 25 years, yearning for the father absent from his life but not his heart.

It is true miracle that after 54 years Brooks has recently been reunited with his son.. and also discovered that he has a daughter, that he did not know existed.

Read Full Story at KETV 7: Father, son reunite after 54 years

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No Tapes=No Justice Video Exposes Systemic Fraud, Corruption in the Court System

Why is NO ONE getting their fair due process in court??? 

No Tapes =No Justice” by Telly Blackwood is a shocking video that exposes the rampant corruption, fraud, and illegal activity occurring in America’s legal and court system. To cover up their crimes, and justify their illegal actions, the judges and court professionals, and government officials at every level, are altering court records and transcripts, destroying documents and lying on the witness stand. This means no one is getting any due process rights. 

The information in this video exposes a widespread, systemic problem that includes family court and juvenile court (CPS).

“..Our judicial system has been replaced by a for profit system.

We are now guilty until proven innocent, making us human capitol.

Our system, right under our noses, was replaced and hardly anyone noticed. They ushered in a new court system making America just a corporate ponzi scheme, a monopoly consisting of attorneys, judges, courts, court reporters, clerks, govt agencies and cover ups. A syndicate of thieves. Big money in this country has conspired with elected officials and the powers that are to create designer law and prosecutions to engineer our once beautiful nation into they have to cheat you to beat you for profit industry…

“No Tapes =No Justice” is raising awareness to expose the broken legal and court system that perpetrate “national, systematic fraud” in an effort to demand an investigation by the federal government, and hold crooked court players accountable.

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Absolute Power and Sexual Abuse: A Survivor Comments on the Kidnapping of Elizabeth Thomas

The sexual abuse of children is just one part of a system of trickery and abuse created to maintain secrecy, isolation and the offender’s absolute power over the child and all others in the child’s life. The offender sets up a web-like structure of traps, lies and distortions to isolate the victim…” ~ Laurel House

Kidnapping does not always involve a stranger or a man with a gun…a predator who knows how to groom, and manipulate can gain the trust of the victim, and lure them away…

After reading news reports about the teen, Elizabeth Thomas, who went missing from her home after being groomed and manipulated by her perverted teacher, Tad Cummins, my first reaction was: this reminds me of the abuse I have survived. My second reaction was somehow wanting to scream across the distance to Elizabeth that no matter what was said or done to you, no matter what you were made to believe.. it is not your fault. As an adult survivor, and a mother, I speak from experience… you may not understand now, but trust me, it was not your fault…and it never was.

My Story of Survival: When I graduated from high school, I was given a laptop as a gift. My family meant the laptop to encourage my love of writing, and to help me in college. Unfortunately, I discovered chat rooms, where I met the man who would become my abuser and tormentor, Martin.

It started out innocently enough, in my online profile I put a fake name but included my age and the city where I lived. Martin was online searching for a young girl of my description and that was enough for him to find me, chatting in a room with an audience of young people, talking and laughing about random subjects. It would have been obvious to someone much older, as Martin was at age 31, how immature we all were. Martin was online with the handle “Shadoobee”, a reference to a song by the Rolling Stones, and began to entrap me.. though I was not aware of what grooming was at the time.

Eventually, I met Martin in person, and was surprised at how much older he was. I had absolutely no attraction to Martin but he seemed nice enough. Martin adapted all his interests to match mine so it seemed like we had everything in common (later he hated everything about me). Martin read my poetry and writing, and had me so convinced that he understood me so well that it was like he could read my mind.  He vented frustrations against his own mother, his work, his life..and told me I was the only one he could confide in, that it was us against the world. There were also signs of Martin’s controlling behavior, and at times anger and violence erupted. One time I rejected Martin’s advances towards me and he got so angry that he nearly ran the car off the road. As he was yelling and swearing at me, I could not even defend myself.. over and over a jumbled voice ran through my mind like a broken record, “itsallmyfaultitsallmyfaultitsallmyfault….

When I look back it is amazing how many adults did nothing to intervene. I feel so protective of children now, I think I would claw somebody’s eyes out if I saw them harm a child or approach a child in an inappropriate way. When I first met Martin’s parents I was so young – it must have been so obvious that this was wrong..their grown adult son with someone who had not even taken a step in the adult world.. and yet they acted like this was normal. Martin told everybody that we were “just friends”. I desperately wished it was so, that I could stop the pain and abuse he was inflicting on me but by then I ceased to exist, and was being totally brainwashed and controlled. It was not until I became pregnant with my son that the truth was exposed and by then I didn’t have the strength to see the truth, let alone escape.

It took 8 long years to finally escape this horrible, abusive relationship and by then Martin was becoming more aggressive, and openly hostile towards me. My two small children were being physically and mentally abused, tormented in their own home. Martin even abused our pets – and after I fled our home, had my cat euthanized just to hurt me. I left Martin for good after an incident where he physically attacked me. My son was injured after he kicked in the door, and when it swung open, he was hit in the face with the brass door knob, causing a black eye. By then Martin was done with me – he had a new victim, his vulnerable teenage cousin, with her own history of abuse, Lisa whom he calls “Baby Lisa”.

Martin, now 42 years old was preying on his first cousin Lisa and actually assisted her in running away from home so they could have a relationship together. Martin told me, and also told my father, that because I was not pleasing him that he needed to turn to Lisa… that somehow it is my fault that he is now exploiting and abusing someone else. In turn, Lisa has become abusive towards my own children. Each time the children disclosed abuse, each time a bruise was reported, each time the children showed behaviors consistent with abuse.. the family court, CPS, and authorities failed to protect them but instead returned them to the abuser to be re-victimized all over again.

My story does not have a happy ending.. Martin obtained a sleazy attorney and filed a motion for sole custody, and won, in a Hennepin County courtroom. My children were handed over to an abuser…and 11 years later we are still involved with family court. 

It troubles me that recently.. my daughter came home with her favorite backpack, which she decorates with colorful metal buttons. Martin made a special button for her backpack. It is a picture of a Rolling Stones tongue and underneath was the name “Shadobee”.. the exact name he used when he met me online, as a teen, so long ago.

In another disturbing incident, my daughter was looking for a favorite shirt that was missing. She found the shirt.. and Lisa was wearing it. My daughter was confused and upset that not only was Lisa wearing the shirt put she was making sexy poses and taking selfies… My daughter wore that shirt as an innocent child, who loves pink and sparkles. It was never meant for a grown woman trying to seduce a man by acting like a teen girl. Makes me sick.. yet the family court protects the abuser, and continues to issue rulings that put my children at risk. 

The Kidnapping of Elizabeth Thomas (Maury County, Tennessee):  Elizabeth Thomas, 15 years old, is safely back home with her family after being taken across the country by her 50 year old teacher, Tad Cummins. Thomas was missing for more than a month, and found in a remote cabin in the mountains of Northern California.

The cabin’s care taker initially allowed the pair to stay at the hotel but grew concerned by what he described as “red flags” which led him to discover that an Amber Alert had been issued for Thomas. The caretaker then notified police. In my eyes, the caretaker is a hero. So many people look away when there are signs of abuse or have the attitude of “not my business” or “don’t get involved” and as a result, children are harmed. But he paid attention to the warning signs and made a report, and a child’s life was saved. 

Cummins allegedly groomed Thomas from inside the classroom, gaining her trust and even initiating a kiss. Thomas was especially vulnerable to the manipulation of Cummins as she had a history of being bullied by classmates, and because this was her first year in the public school system after being home schooled until 8th grade.

Grooming is the term used to describe the deliberate tactics that predators use to select their victim and then engage in sexual abuse. Grooming is done in such a way that the child may not even realize that they are being abuse because they are conditioned to believe something else that reinforce the predator’s control over them. According to former FBI agent Kenneth Lanning, there are five stages in the grooming process (source NAASCA):

1) Identify the possible victim;
2) Collect information about the intended victim;
3) Fill a need;
4) Lower inhibitions; and
5) Initiate abuse.

Predators not only groom victims but con, manipulate and groom friends, family, neighbors, professionals – anyone – to gain the trust needed to get access to a victim or to avoid detection. Despite what the predator tries to project, the inappropriate sexual relationship a predator has with a victim is not romantic or consensual – it is abusive, exploitative and causes severe trauma to the victim. 

After a 12 year old student made a report about Cummin’s inapropriate behavior, the school launched an investigation and ordered him to have no contact with Thomas. However, on March 13, the pair disappeared. While on the run, Cummins called Thomas by the name “Joanna” and told people that she was his wife, and that she is 24 years old.

Cummins since has been charged on counts of aggravated kidnapping and sexual contact with a minor and remains in custody.

Anthony Thomas, father, claims that Cummins has “brainwashed” his daughter and “built up a system where she was dependent on him.”

In America today, there are an estimated 42 million survivors of childhood sexual abuse. 

Read More About the Elizabeth Thomas Kidnapping: 

Ex-Teacher Accused of Kidnapping Student, 15, Rubbed Her Back When They First Met: Teen’s Sister

Missing Tennessee teen’s father: I think my daughter was brainwashed

Missing Tenn. student Elizabeth Thomas is ‘resting’ after reuniting with her family

Tad Cummins bought disturbing items at Walmart, booked single-bed hotel room while on the run with kidnap teen: Report

Sexual Abuse and Grooming:

A Profile of the Child Molester

NAASCA: Grooming: How Child Molesters Create Willing Victim

No More: Help End Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault

Sexual Offender Tactics and Grooming (Laurel House)

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