“The enemies inside my home but who would ever listen to me, and all the secrets that you made me keep. And it’s tearing me apart..”
“Secrets” is a new song by Christian rapper and R&B artist, Jason “J’son” Watson, featuring J.R. “Secrets” is about a couple who seek marital counseling because they are struggling with the effects of the wife being sexually abused as a child. “Secrets” is a unique video in that it explores the devastating effects of sexual abuse from two different perspectives: that of the wife, who was sexually abused as a child by her father, and also that of the husband. The husband is struggling to support his wife but is helpless to stop her pain, and it breaks his heart that he could not go back to that moment when she was being abused, and protect her. The husband also feels victimized by the devastating effects of the sexual abuse which also impact his life. “Secrets” offers hope, that counseling and support make it possible to heal from sexual abuse, “Biblical counseling brothers & sisters in my midst, Help me endure it, though what happened I’d never forget..” Part of the counseling includes affirming to the victim, and her husband, that they are not at fault for what happened. There is also freedom in being able to speak about what has been done, and not be forced to keep secrets any longer.
“Secrets” is based on the story of J’son’s wife, Lawanda, who was sexually abused by her father as a child. Also, Dianna Hobbs, who plays the role of Json’s wife in the video, was sexually molested by a neighbor at age 6.
“Secrets” was made to raise awareness about sexual abuse, and to break the secrets by encouraging sexual abuse victims to speak out and seek help or support. “The No More Secrets” campaign was inspired by J’son and Lawanda to break the silence and secrecy around sexual abuse, and to give hope and support to victims.
“It is our hope that the ‘No More Secrets’ campaign will let other survivors know they are not alone,” says Dianna Hobbs.
I must also add, that “Secrets” is a helpful video for educating people about sexual abuse, and how it affects families, as a whole. Specifically that children have reasons for not disclosing abuse, but that does not mean it did not happen. Whenever allegations of child abuse or sexual abuse are raised, they must be taken seriously, and thoroughly investigated. Parents should not be punished, or lose custody, for reporting abuse. Family Court and CPS have a vital role in protecting children from abuse, and when they fail, children are further abused, traumatized, and sometimes do not survive. “Secrets” is a real warning for helping professionals to take a strong stand against abuse, and shows what could happen if they fail.
— Emily Court, 2015
You can hear more about J’son and Lawanda’s story, and learn more about the No More Secrets Campaign here: No More Secrets Campaign
Help fight sexual violence. Share the “No More Secrets” campaign on Facebook Twitter, Instagram, and more. When you tweet, use the hash tag #DONTKEEPSECRETS
Note: The campaign encourages victims of sexual abuse to “Upload a photo of yourself holding a sign that says ‘I am a Sexual Abuse Survivor’ or ‘Help Stop Sexual Violence'”. The campaign has also created a survey, which asks detailed personal questions, including about sexual abuse, which can be shared and used publicly as part of “No More Secrets.”Please use caution when disclosing your face (likeness), identity or screen name in this way, especially when revealing sensitive details about yourself. I understand the campaign is “No More Secret” but at the same time, your privacy and safety must also be considered.